Sunday, May 2, 2010

Looking for a little advice

DH & I will be doing a new round of IVF sometime in June. During our last cycle I was trying to tell the fewest amount of people as possible, but I'm not very good at keeping secrets... I told a few close friends & family members everything. When our IVF didn't work out I found myself explaining it to a lot of people & caused myself a lot of heartache. I am trying to save myself some of this problem for our upcoming cycle but I have such a hard time keeping my mouth shut. I need some serious advice on how to keep the secret & who do you tell what?

I am a very open person but a lot of the times it comes back to kick me in the a$$!! Also, WHEN we do become pregnant I want it to be special, surprising, & sweet. i don't want people to say, "Yeah we knew that was coming."

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE give me any advice you have on how I can shield my heart from the hurt.

1 comment:

  1. Alicia,
    I'm just like you. Very open & tell everyone everything. It was tough to tell everyone the 1st time it didn't work. So this time I told less people than before. And it's even tougher to tell them that it didn't work the 2nd time. We're still not even telling everyone that it didn't work, we're simply saying "we don't want to talk about it." Which may be really stupid b/c they are now assuming I'm pregnant.

    So my advice would be to not tell anyone (or as few people as possible). I know this is tough. Next time we try we're not telling a soul (well just Dh's parents, b/c they are so supportive & wonderful).

    You have a really good chance of this working for you guys. My genetic situation is way different than clay's so don't compare our outcome to your situation.

    Wishing you the best & rooting for you!